Common Mistake

Thanks for the great tips. All right, there is this one girl that I have been talking to. We have been friends now for a year and a half. She just got out of a three year relationship. We started going out together and having a good time. I started to feel that she was starting to like me. Any ways, last week I told her how I felt, then she told me how she felt. She told me that right now it will feel too awkward to go out with me b/c she doesn’t want to hurt me.

She also told me she needs a friend right now b/c she is very hurt and scared. She said she thought she was ready for a relationship, but now she wants to go out and have a good time. I read your tip about not asking a girl about commitment first, but I felt it was the right time since we have been seeing each other. Did I do the right thing by expressing my feelings to her first? Also, what do I do now since I expressed my feelings to her first? I still want to continue to see her, but I don’t want her to feel awkward around me. Please offer me some advice.

Your situation is a very common one, many men on adultfriendrfinder are in similar situations and most make the wrong decisions because they make them based on emotions rather than logic… emotions cloud our judgement. The scenario in which the nice guy who expresses his feelings and goes to extremes to get the girl… will never have a good ending, unless you are Freddy Prince Jr. working on your next “chick flick”.

You should know my answer to your first question by now, yes you did make the wrong decision by telling her how you felt before she told you first, but it’s an easy mistake to make. When she said “I don’t want to hurt you… it’ll feel awkward… and I’m scared” she was lying. She was simply turned off by you expressing your feelings for her, because you had put yourself on her “easy to get” list, and women do not want what is easy to get, they want what is hard to get.

With that in mind you should be starting to understand what it is you need to do if you want to get this girl… play “hard to get”. You can learn how to do this by reading one of my recent articles which is called “Cat & Mouse” and can be found on the web site. However, I must warn you that in almost every case in which a man goes from friend to boyfriend, the relationship only lasts for a very short period of time.

I’m not trying to discourage you, and I hope that you can prove me wrong, but the facts are the facts and I’ve seen this same thing hundreds of times before. The best advice that I can give you is to never become friends with a good looking girl in the future, you must express your romantic interest in them immediately in order to keep yourself out of the “friends” category. You want to become friends with unattractive women so when you meet their good looking friends you’ve got a good reference on your resume, but never become friends with any woman that you may want to begin a relationship with, because you will ruin your chances.

If you play the “hard to get” game correctly, I’m sure that you will be able to at least get her into bed a few times, but if I were you I would move on after that before your feelings for her grow any stronger to save yourself from getting burned.

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